Hypnotherapy

My journey to emotional freedom

Like most parents, I want my daughter to have a wonderful, happy childhood and to be the best mama I can be for her. 

In my last blog I shared how becoming a mother drove me to the next level of spiritual growth and awareness.

I’ve recently discovered cultural and ancestral patterns that have been running in my family for generations. That means I’ve worked with old wounds that crawled up from my subconscious along with motherhood. Yes, I'm diving into the depths of self-healing.

I’m highly motivated to do this work because I don’t want to pass my old stories and limiting beliefs on to my daughter. I want better for her, and when I do the work everyone, both me and my family, will benefit from it greatly. 

Already before her birth, I knew what I want to teach my child about life.

  • I want her to learn she’s good enough and capable of achieving whatever she decides to do in her life.

  • I want her to know it’s okay to make mistakes; challenges can be overcome and embraced as important milestones of growth.

  • I want her to learn how to feel her feelings so she can be her authentic self and express herself easily.

It’s important for me to show her that these skills are the greatest drivers of creating a happy and meaningful life.

It’s all what I didn’t learn until later in my adulthood when I started my own journey of growth and consciously creating the life I want to live.

I am also (almost painfully) aware my daughter will have her own life lessons she needs to learn and I cannot protect her or smooth the way for her completely, no matter how much I may want to.

But I can do my share and consciously change the conditioning that is not serving her or me.

As I have chosen to do this work, I get to learn and release these patterns in everyday life.

My first Mother’s Day was quite an emotional one.

There were expanded feelings of happiness and joy when I got to spend the day with my little family, who pampered me so sweetly.  

There were also sudden feelings of self-doubt and anxiety, that I had not been able to recognize before. 

Instead of ignoring these intense feelings, I stopped to bring awareness to them and to find out what kind of stories lie behind these feelings.

I worried whether I can ever be a good enough mama to her as I feel flawed, vulnerable, and imperfect. 

These uncomfortable feelings revealed a huge insight for me:

I realized that if I don’t let my daughter see me as I am — and able to receive her love fully — I would be abandoning her emotionally and rejecting her love.

Then I as a parent would repeat exactly what I was unconsciously taught in my childhood: love needs to be earned and if I just give, give, give and be a perfect, good girl, then I’d be lovable.

It was a huge breakthrough for me to finally find the root cause for the fear of abandonment and the lack of sense of belonging. Both these have caused me all kinds of struggle, disease, relationship issues and fears. 

It took a while for me to understand how I had not been able to, and how difficult it was for me to fully receive love.

After realizing all this and changing my limiting beliefs, stories and patterns — and the energies related to them — I soon felt lighter and confidently rooted within my own being.

Now when I bond with my little girl I feel at ease. Looking at her loving eyes doesn’t make me hesitate any more. I started feeling deeper connection not only with her but with my husband, my parents and family - and especially with myself.

Self-acceptance and the ability to receive love are the foundations of deep and intimate relationships with ourselves and others.

By being our authentic selves and showing that vulnerability is a strength, not a weakness, our kids, and we as adults can learn to accept ourselves and understand we are good enough and lovable as we are. It’s never too late to start making these changes. 

When we choose to take responsibility and do the inner work it shifts our energy, helps to heal relationships and allows us to become free to do and be our authentic selves.

And that’s powerful and something many people are craving for, because when these old stories and conditioning are changed, you can change your habits; get healthy; release physical conditioning, limiting fears and blockages that prevent you from creating a happy, fulfilling life that looks and feels like you.

When we face any kind of difficulties with others one of the greatest questions we can ask ourselves is:

How am I creating this? 

I know it's not easy to take responsibility when it feels like everyone else is creating the issues or like life is resisting your aims. It takes some courage to ask this question of yourself and be willing to recognize and face the truth behind it.

But if you dare to take the path to growth and listen carefully, you will get insightful answers and your own wisdom and guidance will help move you forward. 

Changing ourselves is the only way to affect and change others. I’ve seen this happening in my own life and my clients' lives over and over again. 

Your happiness and wellbeing depends on you. You are not your limited by how or where you grew up or what others do.

Your life is your creation and in the same way you have created it so far, you can make changes and redesign it consciously. You only need to make the choice and get started.

Much love, Jenni

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WHY YOU CAN'T GET STARTED AND MAKE THINGS HAPPEN

Quite often we know exactly what we could do in order to get there, but something just keeps us stuck. Often we don't even know what it is that is preventing us from moving forward, and we just stay stuck.

The more we struggle against our inner voice and calling, the more frustration we create...

I'm talking about fear.

Usually, we are the ones who are standing in the way of our own happiness and success.

There are all kind of fears: fear of happiness, fear of success, fear of what other people think if we star doing what we really want, fear of commitment, fear of not being good enough, fear of receiving...

These are so powerful beliefs and keeping so many people unhappily stuck exactly where they are. No matter they want to live an extraordinary life, in their own terms. They let their fears prevent them to live to the fullest and eventually, they just give up and satisfy and don't use their skills or follow their real passions... And I don't want that happen to you!

THe good news is: there is a way out of it! watch the video below and learn how to do it.

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1) Look within: WHAT IS IT THAT YOU WANT MOST RIGHT NOW? Write down all max. five things that have been bugging you on your "should do/be/have/dream" list. Skip the obvious that already is part of your life; put down only the things that you have resisted most.

Write down all the things that have been bugging you on your "should do/be/have/dream" list. Skip the obvious that already are part of your life; put down only the things that you have resisted most, maybe for a long time.

It can be about finding a new job, asking more money, starting a new hobby or a blog, a website, writing course, developing yourself somehow... 

You are unique, so are your desires, so it is about you.

2) PICK ONE. The first one that you see. Don't start pondering in between the options, you can do them all but you need to start one thing at the time.

3) FEEL IT - face the fear, the resistance - what does it tell you? Accept and approve it: get over it. It just shows you the right way, just do the opposite and believe the opposite your fear and mind is telling you. It just wants to keep your safe, so be gentle with yourself.

4) TAKE ACTION - There is no short-cut to the treasure: what is the first step to getting ahead with it? Now, go ahead and

Now, go ahead and do it.

Just do it.

Taking action and feeling it all is the only way to get over the fears, create a personal breakthrough, feel like a winner and alive! 

When you learn to do this, following through your desires one by one, you will see how changes start happening, your courage will grow and - no matter the fears will never totally leave us (they are keeping us safe in the end)  - we can learn how to live with them and use them as a guidance.

So now, go ahead and do what you want to do!

Much Love, Jenni