Have you made big promises, visions and life goals for the New Year?
I’m happy if you did! It’s a great way to make positive changes.
You probably committed yourself to exercise more, save money, learn a new skill, land a new job and get the next step of your career going, manage your time or stress better, be healthier, change bad habits, improve relationships or you just want to become a better person...
In general, these things make us happier.
Unfortunately, it’s rare for people to keep their resolutions. Approximately 80% of resolutions fail by the second week of February.
It’s painful to realize that what you are trying to do is not working.
It can feel like you are standing in the way of your own happiness and success. Even strong willpower doesn’t work and it’s definitely not fun anymore.
here are the common reasons why people fail to accomplish their goals and resolutions:
they set too high and unrealistic expectations and goals (we can’t have everything at once and change faster than we are ready for).
they are not explicit about their desires and goals (the detail is needed).
they don’t plan how to make it happen.
they lack real motivation and commitment.
These reasons are very logical. But the real reason why people fail to accomplish their goals and resolutions is not based on logic.
It's because your mind is wired to your old habits of thinking, feeling and behaving.
Your feelings and (often) unconscious patterns always beat the logic and willpower of your conscious mind.
Your subconscious mind rules your world 95%.
That's what keeps you in your familiar comfort zone, no matter that it’s painful and you really, really want to move forward!
It’s your self-limiting beliefs that keep you repeating the old patterns and habits that are not making you happy any more.
There might even be a firm belief that you are not able to change or that you deserve the better, happier life. Or even worse, that you are not worthy of it.
This is the reason why diets, saving or making more money, personal development plans and exercise programs, and resolutions in general, won’t work. That is until you change your subconscious programming, i.e. your beliefs and thoughts, and get a clear vision of how you want to change and also connect deeply to how it will feel when you have reached your goal.
Successful resolutions and goals require:
A clear, detailed goal you commit yourself to.
Facing and then changing your self-limiting beliefs and stories.
Bringing light to your inner objections and patterns.
Consistency; don’t give up when you face obstacles.
Using visualization (your imagination) to empower and motivate yourself to see your goal in your mind and believe it.
Create a plan and take small steps towards your goal on a daily or weekly basis.
Focus on doing and being present today; let go of the obsession with the outcome and know it’s happening.
By following these steps you will set yourself up for success.
To help you change your subconscious blocks and self-limiting stories you can download my free workbook here.
Leave a comment below telling me your thoughts on what has or hasn’t been working for you with your own resolutions!
Much love, Jenni
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