Do you think Affirmations are not Working for you?

Affirmations are short statements of truth that you repeat to yourself over and over.

Their aim is to override old programming, to cancel out negative thought patterns and to set yourself free to live up to your potential and achieve what you want.  

When affirmations won’t work: 

  • You don’t really believe what you are saying to yourself.
  • There is a conflict between the affirmation and your belief system.
  • You use negative or a future-oriented tone in your affirmation, which is confusing to the mind.
  • You are not aware of, or paying attention to, your mind’s objections (resistance).
  • There is a deep, subconscious block that is powerfully resisting the changes you desire.

The good news is, affirmations can and do work. 

They are a fantastic way to increase self-belief, courage and to expand all areas of your life.  

Here’s one example of an empowering affirmation: Only love, abundance, time, and success comes into my sphere.

Make affirmations work for you:

  • The mind lives in the present - that’s the power of the now, always connect with your body and mind and how you feel in the now.
  • Create affirmations that are meaningful for you right now: “I am finding my dream job now.” (be sure to define your dream job first :)) 
  • Use clear, authoritative positive and present commands: I feel, I can, I have, I am… 
  • Use and create the affirmations that resonate with you and your personal situation. For example: “I’m good enough” doesn’t mean anything if you haven’t clarified the meaning and the reason behind it.
  • Talk to your mind in the third person: “You can write a brilliant self-help book, Jenni.”
  • Repeat the affirmations consistently and daily, and combine them with visualization by using your imagination. Eventually you’ll exhaust your mind and the visualization will become a blueprint for you to step into.
  • Be aware of how you feel and the thoughts you have as you use your affirmations. 
  • Repeat the affirmations in the morning and evening, just before bedtime, while your subconscious is receptive (this is why we do morning meditations). I often hear myself repeating my affirmations while I sleep.
  • Write out your affirmations - I love using post-its. When you see your affirmations in your phone and journal them out every day they become more effective and your mind accepts the new statements of truth.
  • Say the affirmations out loud. Repeat them on the go, teach your mind to believe new thoughts and see new images.

A Simple Exercise to Strengthen Your Affirmations

There are many different ways to help the mind access and believe your affirmations. Here's one simple exercise, which also reveals your limiting beliefs, to help create personal and effective affirmations.

  • Write out the affirmation as a statement. 
  • Get quiet and write out all the objections your mind comes up with. Why it’s not possible? Is it really true?
  • Keep going until there aren't any objections coming up.
  • This is the way how your mind learns to accept it. 

If you see a pattern in your objections and something is repeating itself, then you become aware of your limiting belief and can release it.

Releasing these objections allows you to start using your affirmations successfully. 

No need to analyze or understand these objections more deeply. It’s enough that you have let the objections out and that’s the way to release them. You will often realize as they come to the surface that they are not true. 

Talk to your mind, it always does what you want it to do.  

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How to have productive feel good days

Do you need more control of your days, and your daily schedule, so time doesn't just slip away?

You aren’t alone if you feel like your days never seem to go as planned!

If my day is not planned, and there are no clear time slots reserved for each type of activity, then I’m hustling, starting 10 things without finishing any of them properly and then staying behind my schedule. Typically at the end of those days I feel that I have wasted the day, there’s self-blame, anxiety, and I feel as though I got nothing done!

This is a usual “chicken running without a head day" for many, I know.

During the first years of my entrepreneurial life I got exhausted and drained, as I felt as though I was never complete and there was always so much to do! I couldn’t stop working and forgot my personal needs and self-care, as I had no structure at all. I was scared to think about how much more I needed to do to be more productive and effective  - in order to get the results I wanted.

Yes, it led to adrenaline exhaustion, until I realized that it was about me and I needed to change my habits and instead introduce clarity and structure.

That's when I changed my habits and implemented new methods that helped me to find my freedom while staying super focused and in high vibration.

I started enjoying great days, one after another. Soon I was super happy to notice it worked: I had improved my productivity; creativity; my overall wellbeing; and increased my income. I felt good about myself and worried less. I felt that I was in control and complete every day by working a lot less and flowing forward with ease.

It was then I designed my Clarity Method and the planner that helps me to stay spiritually, mentally, and emotionally aligned and flowing steadily forward towards my desires and goals.
 

Here's what I started doing, and this is how you can create intentional, successful days:

  1. Sketch your days and plan your schedule the night before. You win your mornings by planning them the evening before and deciding what you are going to focus on each day. It takes less than five minutes!

  2. Start the morning with a consistent morning routine. If you have limited time, do a short meditation and visualize the day ahead. Use your mind to imagine how you want things to go and how you want to feel when you’re done. The calming and centering feeling will carry you through the day. 

  3. Feeling grateful and appreciative from the bottom of your heart for what you have now is the fastest way to manifest, using the power of the mind consciously.
     
  4. Set intentions, goals, and your three love-to-do's for the day. 
     
  5. Decide when your day starts and ends. 
     
  6. Plan time for self-care, downtime, breaks, and exercise.
     
  7. "Close" your day. Pay attention to the good things that happened that day. Before you end your day, track back what went well and take the lessons you need to learn - and feel the feelings away by briefly journaling! 
     
  8. Sketch your next day's schedule in the evening.
     
  9. Decide what time you'll wake up and what are your morning routines.

Repeat this daily and you'll feel energized, successful, and complete in the evening.

This helps you to see the results at the end of each day. You feel and declutter the possible stressful feelings and any bad mood which may have arisen. The less we hide these feelings but release them healthily, the freer and more relaxed we feel. 

It's rewarding to track back and follow up your life daily. You learn a great deal about yourself and what works for you! Paying attention to good things in the mornings and evenings leads to instant gratification and positive cycles. You will then unlock the power of the mind and attract more of what you want in life - it all starts from daily action!

To help you get create the successful, intentional days continuously, while enjoying and getting done what you wanted and needed to, download the printable daily page of my Clarity Planner!  

Use it for planning your days, habits, feelings and all activities and follow it up in the evening. 

If you have any questions, leave them in the comments below!

Love, Jenni

To have a healthy, loving relationship self-knowledge is key

Personally, it was the hardest thing for me to learn to say what I need in my relationship. In the beginning, I would rather have bitten my tongue than talk about anything difficult or to explain what I needed, which I often wasn't even able to recognize myself. This led to resentment and passive aggressiveness.

Over the years I have blamed him for not seeing or listening to me, that was before I turned inwards to see my own input. How I haven’t paid attention and opened up a real conversation about it. Instead letting my past hurts get triggered, hurts which had nothing to do with him. 

We all have our default beliefs based on our earlier experiences. I never learned, or was allowed, to express my needs or feelings safely. It's a common issue that many generations experience. 

As a child, I learned surface emotions were expressed by arguing, and the real ones were to be hidden in the silence. But time and avoidance doesn't heal problems. Unresolved arguments and unexpressed needs only build resentment.

It’s easy to play the victim and to silently blame others or the circumstances, while avoiding feeling our feelings and showing our real vulnerable selves. Together, me and my partner have learned to discuss fears and issues when they show up.

To stay in balance I constantly need to pay attention to give love to myself, so that I can then receive it from my partner. I need to hear that I’m loved often enough and sometimes I ask for it. Now that I’m pregnant I need that even more! I could be cuddled and hugged all the time like a baby. Touching releases the oxytocin hormone, which is needed for getting the body ready for the birth and of course, the growing baby needs it too. But so do adults. 

This is what I often hear people saying:

“Why do I have to be the good one and take responsibility for the communication and bring things up?”

“It’s about him or her and I have done nothing wrong, I’m doing my best.”

“I wish s/he would change and understand me better.”

“S/he will never change. S/he always…”

“Why is it me who always has to…”

Because someone has to make the change. Nothing will change if we don't change it. This kind of cycle needs to be stopped and the patterns must be broken - consciously.

Over time couples become so close that they can't see the “bad’ habits and patterns they have created together. Habits which are causing repetitive battles and issues. This piles up when old hurts and misunderstandings aren't resolved.

It's never really about the other person. In the end, it's about us and resonating what we need to learn from ourselves so that we can resolve the issues that will help us to heal and grow.

We get so used to each other, and therefore often take the relationship for granted and become less compassionate towards our partner. It’s easy to neglect each other, and stop seeing who our partners really are and what they might be going through. It’s easy to just assume, rather than ask them and see them clearly. Often we don't (want to) recognize how our own input is causing the issue. It's not fair to complain to friends, and not have a real talk with your chosen partner. 

Lack of communication and trust and an inability to be vulnerable are causing the emotional, and intimacy problems in many relationships.

Often your other half has no idea what's going on and what you might be thinking, and needing - you need to communicate it. There are so many misunderstandings in relationships, which sadly often lead to separation or divorce, just because of defensive egos and because people are not connected to their own hearts and feelings and have not solved the issues from their past. 

Too many people do not understand what they are projecting or why they feel how they feel.

However, if there is love and willingness, these issues can always be solved.  

Other people are often our mirrors: what you think and feel about others, they might think that about you. They often project and resonate with what we are afraid of and think the very same thing about us!

We communicate and sense without words often and therefore attract similar situations until we are ready to stop and learn. But only spoken words can create connection and understanding - when we choose to approach conversations with peace and compassion.

If you need a change and are not fully satisfied in your relationship, you need to step up; be open about your feelings and needs; and start the communication. 

It requires courage to be the one who stands up for their needs and asks for changes. It requires the courage to connect with the heart and speak for yourself. You want to do it for your happiness. 

The better you know yourself, the better your relationships will be and the more open you can be.

Taking responsibility for your own needs is a measure of your self-worth and appreciation. And beautifully shows you your limiting beliefs and what you might be avoiding. Maybe it’s about fear of commitment, lacking deeper emotional connection, trust issues, fear of having real happiness or facing the truth...

It never goes wrong and people never turn against us when we are able to show our real feelings and worries vulnerably. It releases the tension and shifts the energy.

It’s not weakness, it’s power. It then opens up the possibility of your other half opening up and taking responsibility for their feelings. It simply leads to a resolution and clarity. It strengthens the emotional connection - and adds more love, partnership, and trust. 

We simply need to be who we are and be able to share our deepest fears and feelings to our partners safely. 

So, what to say and how to change this?

Say what you don’t want to say - I know it’s easy to say that, but it’s the truth.

Do what you don’t want to do and face your fears confidently. You’ll be rewarded.

If your issue is that you are over-compassionate and understanding towards your partner, and you carry their emotions too, you are probably forgetting your own needs. You deserve to get what you want and need, and you are worthy of asking for that.  

It might feel in the beginning as though it’s not working. That’s only because as you change your behaviour and release your defensive barriers your partner is not used to it. It’s like they can’t believe that you are not coming from a resentful, defensive place but instead are approaching the situation with peace and calm. It will change, we always face resistance and challenges before things start flowing. You are doing this for you both, for your relationship and for your happiness future.

Coming from a loving place provides an opportunity for growth. As we need to grow constantly in life, so too do we need to grow and change in our relationships.

I'd love to hear from you! Leave a comment below: How have you resolved your relationship communication issues? How did you learn to speak up? 

Love, Jenni 

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The Glad Show with Arnaud Collery: Stand up for your passion!

On this episode of The Glad Show, we talk with Chief Happiness Officer, Arnaud Collery, about happiness, passion and the ways how you can find and start following your purpose.

Arnaud is an influencer, stand up comedian, actor, party organizer, speaker, writer, coach, and author of the book Mr. Happiness!

He is a true storyteller and finds his inspiring stories on his travels and connecting with people. He has shed his skin and started from scratch multiple times by following his passions and exploring the world by traveling and living in multiple countries, including a South American tribe while he was searching for his meaning. 

Arnaud is the founder of Stand Up For Passion events that are organized in New York and all around the world. He has created the Chief Happiness Officer concept, and coaches companies and individuals connect and empathy at work through storytelling. 

We are talking about his fascinating story of life and how he eventually found the meaningful and fulfilling work that he is doing today. 

This episode is great for anyone who is at the crossroads and wants to find their passion and purpose in the world. We talk about authentic happiness, what it really means and how does it feel.

You'll get some tips on how to get started on creating your journey by following your real desires. 

Watch the interview here

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You can contact Arnaud and round more information about the Stand Up for Passion events and his book on his website.

Hope you enjoy it. Thank you for watching!

Much love,
Jenni

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The Glad Show with Ruby Mitchell on self-healing: How I overcame two incurable illnesses

On this episode of the Glad Show, Ruby Mitchell joins me to talk about talk self-healing. 

She is sharing her incredible personal journey how she was able to overcome C-PTSD (complex trauma disorder), brain cancer and a rare, incurable, disease that was repeatedly creating life-threatening tumors in her skull. 

When doctors couldn't help, and give up on her, Ruby was able to find her superpowers and confidence to keep looking until she met the people and methods that eventually helped her to find the root cause of the diseases, and then heal and recover fully.

Her story is an inspirational story about the trial and error, and how the healing path was revelead to her one step at the time when she didn’t give up -- even when she was expecting her second child and then had to make brave decisions based on her gut and intuition.

Ruby is a family trauma specialist, psychotherapist, and clinical hypnotherapist - and a real master of self-healing. She is a dedicated therapist empowering and supporting women on their healing journey and helps them to transform their mindset in order to transform their bodies and their lives.

Ruby and I discuss: 

  • How we have to take responsibility for our health and well-being as no one else can really do that for us but we have to insist healing 
  • What was the root cause of her disease and what in the end worked for Ruby 
  • Why we should never own our diseases and struggles
  • How we all the healing powers and how her husband (who is a soldier and not any kind of energy worker) helped her to heal 
  • Amazing exercises that you can start practicing now: 
    • How to reduce stress and let go of harmful negative feelings and energy from the body
    • Lift up energy quickly in the middle of the day
    • Connecting and supporting yourself and your inner child in a different way

This episode is a great watch for anyone who is interested in self-healing or struggles physical, mental, or emotional issues, and need hope and encouragement on their self-healing journey. Do not give up but get help and keep going, looking and trying out different kind of methods. Something will eventually work!

After you have watched the episode comment below and share your own healing story or ask any questions you might have!

You can contact Ruby on Facebook or by email at support@rubymitchell.com.au

Much love,
Jenni

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What my burnout taught me

Last week, after DJ Avicii died, I watched the Netflix documentary about his last couple of years before he left the touring.  

It was sad to watch how he drove himself to exhaustion and how the look in his eyes changed from excitement to disconnection - like he was not there anymore. 

He couldn’t slow down to rest and heal, not even in the hospital where he sat on his bed working with his laptop all the time, bottles of coca-cola next two his bed and room filled with people, while he was talking with the team of doctors about serious health issues.

He tried to get some help and seemed to desperately get help while continuing touring and working 24/7 and only got deeper into the self-sabotaging cycle while his body was screaming all the warning signs.  

Alcohol, success, work, drugs, are great addictives taking the edge off the emotional and physical pain, numbing and blocking the way to understanding and allowing the healing to start.

Social media was blaming his manager who certainly focused only on making him more and more successful with any cost. But also Avicii himself, something inside him, drove and pushed him to achieve more and work harder. He couldn’t take any credits for his success and work.

He didn’t know what he really wanted to achieve and what would make him feel fulfilled. Nothing was enough, he was not enough.

Curse of publicity and overnight success? 

No, this is everyday life. 

Too many people struggle with the same disease and are driven by subconscious, unrecognized self-beliefs leading to extreme stress and exhaustion when they try to achieve and fulfill the never-ending external demands and requirements. 

His story touched me deeply because it brought up the vivid feelings about my own burnout.

I remember sitting on the beach and begging help from the universe, or anyone, so that I could feel calm, connected, and peaceful again. I couldn’t hear anything behind the cacophony in my mind.

Then the day came that I had been afraid of: After a one-day work trip to Paris, I dropped on the couch and couldn't get up. 

I had been scared, feeling so lonely, anxious, and panicky and I couldn’t sleep well anymore. I knew that I was dancing on the tightrope but this deep, dark fear had kept me going and escaping my reality and myself.

I had numbed myself with work, busyness, partying, alcohol, and smoking, and living the life that felt like somebody else’s life - it all felt meaningless. I felt so restless that I couldn't calm down to watch a movie, read, or be alone. 

On that day I understood I could either keep destroying myself - for nothing really - or take it seriously, get help, and help myself. 

It’s a dangerous - life-threatening - combination to feel extremely unworthy and believe that working more and harder and being better is the way to fulfillment, success, love, and acceptance.

When these inner drivers and false self-beliefs are on, there is no stop sign and we lose the control, and connection first with the feelings and then with the self - the most precious assets that we have.  

The first thing I did then was that I simplified my life and started changing my habits. I set clear boundaries and stopped putting everyone and everything else ahead my own needs and real desires. 

Sometimes it meant lying on the floor listening to jazz or sitting in complete silence starting out of window, which at first was scary and strange but as it felt right I did it.

I felt fragile and broken for quite a while, but I was able to save myself. It opened me up to a new level of sensitivity, which also meant I was not able to work as much as I did before - not a bad thing in the end! 

It was then when I found Eckhart Tolle’s book The Power of Now opened my eyes to see things from a totally new perspective - it was a delicate but so powerful paradigm shift, and gave me the answers that I had been looking for a long time. The Art of Living in the Present Moment became the core of my life and a few years later my work.  

It was a blessing, like our challenges often are if we just learn to see them that way. I started the ten-year journey to spiritual and personal growth and healing. My drivers are now completely different and I'm on my mission to help everyone to become aware and understand that we all have the power, and a key to healing, happiness, and real success and well-being.

If you have have symptoms of burnout or if you are constantly exhausted, resentful and cynical about your future and your daily life - or if you are constantly sick or in pain - get help. It's not the way life should be and you can change it for better.  

Or if you are are at the crossroads, feel blocked from knowing what you want next in your life, relationship, or career, and you are ready to start doing the changes now, I'd love to invite you to apply a free Clarity Coaching session.

During this session, we create a personal plan for you: when there is a plan, there is a way forward. 

With love and gratitude,
Jenni

The Glad Show with Dr. Laura Brayton: The birth of a mother

What to expect and how to prepare your business and yourself to motherhood 

Dr. Laura Brayton is a holistic chiropractor, author, and speaker, she is extremely passionate about supporting the health and wellness of families. Dr. Brayton writes on health-related topics and is a lecturer for various holistic groups, including childbirth education centers, and new moms’ groups.

She has a podcast called “Well-Adjusted Mama” to educate and to empower women preconception through early motherhood on wellness lifestyle. In September 2017, she gave birth to her son, Finley, in the most amazing experience of her life.

Many women contemplate and hesitate how to have and manage it all: maintain a successful career, business, and relationship while becoming a mother while knowing life will change completely with the baby. 

Becoming a mother is an identity shift, one of the most significant physical and psychological changes women ever go through. 

The inner and outer expectations are often too high and unrealistic, which makes the whole process even harder if women don't have enough information on how to make right decisions for themselves, insight into emotions and what kind of challenges to prepare before and after the birth. 

On this episode, Laura is sharing what she has learned with working with women and new moms during over 13 years and her own experiences and challenges she faced with becoming a mother.  

  • What most women don't know when they step into motherhood
  • Why it's important to face the inner fears and learn how to let go of them already in the pre-conception phase
  • How to deal with the comparison, guilt, shame, and frustrations when things are not going as planned 
  • How to let go of unrealistic expectations of the ideal, perfect mother
  • The key things to staying well, centered, and the secret to handling it all
  • The business strategy, financial planning, and preparations for the maternity leave

Watch the interview here

Listen to the audio here

Once you have watched or listened to the show, we would love to hear from you!

Feel free to ask questions or share your own experience on this important topic in the comments below!

This episode is great for anyone interested in what women go through before and after becoming a mother and how to prepare for it holistically.

If you know anyone who would love this episode, please share online and with your friends!

Read more about Laura’s work at http://drlaurabrayton.com/

Love, 
Jenni

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Do you want to change your morning habits? Here's how to do it.

There are tons of self-help books that tell us how to create a successful and super-productive day.

We should wake-up very early, get up like a space rocket, stop snoozing, follow the 5-second rule, do yoga, exercise, get into action right away, meditate, journal, eat healthy, have a large breakfast, plan and visualize our days, listen to something inspirational, set the mindset, use affirmations…

Most of us don’t have the time to do that every day. Most people don’t even try, as all this feels so overwhelming. 

But, it does matter a great deal, what do you do right after you wake-up.

How to change your habits and create a morning routine?

Start with your shoulds.

Before you try change your morning routines: question your "shoulds":

"I should get up earlier, I should do more yoga, I shouldn't read my emails first thing in the morning, or go to social media…"

Remove the word should from your vocabulary.

It’s not really leading to any action but only causing unnecessary self-blame and judgment, especially if you don't even intend to do anything about it. Those shoulds are just habits of thinking.

Maybe it’s not your thing to do yoga or the ther shoulds in the mornings, maybe it's not fitting with your lifestyle right now? And that is completely fine.

If that’s the case, please give yourself a break and let go -- put it on your back burner list or forget it. Or, maybe the evening is working better for you?

If you don't have the motivation and knowledge why you want to make the effort to create a new habit, it’s unlikely that you’ll ever start. It's waste of energy to carry that idea with you.

Ask yourself why you don't do what you want to do?

What's coming up?

We are so used to our thinking patterns, habits, and behavior that we don't see them until we stop to see them. 

You can change your habits when you are aware of what needs to be changed. 

Start trying what feels good for you - bring new routines and habits into your mornings one by one. 

Here's my golden advice how to have successful mornings and days.

It’s not a secret, but something most people don’t get and don't even do, it takes 5 minutes: 

You win your morning by planning it the night before.  

What time you wake-up and what do you do right after. 

Also, you can start your days again anytime. 

Sometimes I start my days four times per day. I then do a little cleansing meditation, align my feelings and thoughts for the next activities. This saves nerves (literally) and keep the energy steady and flowing every day.

To hep you get started I have created an amazing guide to learn about the daily routines and success habits that help you get things done and feel good about yourself every day.

DOWNLOAD The 7 Essential Daily Habits and Routines to Leading Your Life Towards
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With love and gratitude,
Jenni

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Boosting your courage is a key to clarity

Too many people shy away from using their real potential, going after their dreams, and passions just because they lack courage and don't believe in themselves enough.

A big part of my clients come to me with the confidence and self-esteem issues. They know that it's them who are somehow standing in their own way. 

They want to find what keeps them stuck and how to get courage and clarity they lack. 

They want to start their business, write their books, use their creative talents, have healthy relationships, find a new job - be independent financially and mentally.

In the end it's about feeling free to be who they truly are and do what they love!

If you are not doing what is important and meaningful to you, it’s pretty much impossible to live fulfilled, happy life. 

Quite often they believe there’s something wrong with them, which is not true. 

The lack of courage, self-doubt and self-criticism hold the invisible curtain in their mind, blocking the needed clarity and direction

It’s difficult to see things objectively and create a big picture and take action if the negative self-talk and learned beliefs have taken the control.

This is the source of frustrations, insecurities, and anxiety, that only makes you feel more stuck.  

Increasing courage and self-esteem is a key to healing this. 

How to do this?

Get clear of the language that you use when you talk to yourself and others (critical people are extremely harsh on themselves) and start re-wiring your mind by using affirmations and talking to yourself in encouraging, kind and gentle ways. Train your mind!  

I promise you will see a difference in you and the results you get in a short time! 

To help you make the changes faster, I wanted to share my transformational, courage boosting meditation that helps to reduce self-doubt and find that determination and activate the perfect confidence you already have in you.

 

Jenni xo

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My 2018 Manifesto

2017 was like a year-long holistic detox for me.

There were so many life lessons, so much change and a lot of work. I took a massive leap in many areas of life by turning inward, opening my awareness and standing up in a new way. 

It is time to construct and create a new, steadier foundation. This manifesto is the key to it.

My 2018 manifesto: 

• Do my things, work, and business in my way - less by the book or how it’s “supposed” to be done. 
• Focus on feeling good - release tension and set an intention, at every moment. 
• Trust my gut and intuition. 
• Care, try, and think less - focus on doing more and following through.
• Bend time, not myself - stay rooted.
• Choose carefully who I work with. 
• Work smarter, not harder. 
• Let go of the need to control the things that I can’t affect (there must be an endpoint for this).
• Embrace my personal needs, my body, my health and wellbeing (after struggling with physical issues and going through pretty dark times mentally I am now feeling so healthy and well that I can’t appreciate it more). 
• Be powerful, vulnerable me and speak my truth. 

External abundance, results, and achievements follow when we keep our visions clear and stay internally aligned - and courageously walk towards them.

New Year, New Feel, New Chances, Same Dreams, Fresh Starts.

How about you - what are your commitments for this year?

If you like this, share with your friends!

You can get more inspiration, free content, and ideas for creative living by downloading my free guide The 7 Habits and Rituals to Feel Calm, Connected and Energized Every Day.

Love,
Jenni

Do You Constantly Hit Your Upper Limits?

Last week I shared the list of six books that are helping us to overcome the inner barriers and see things differently so that we can grow in all areas of life.

One of them was Gay Hendricks' book The Big Leap in which he talks about "upper limit problems" that are our inner glass ceilings often holding us from reaching out our Zone of Genius...

What is the Zone of Genius?

Simply put the Zone of Genius is the area of life where you are shining and doing what you absolutely love, and you can use all of your gifts and talents. Usually, you get into a flow mode when you are operating in your genius.

We all have our unique genius, but most people have no idea what it is for them. I can relate, it wasn't clear to me either, for a very long time. It’s a bit funny that we don’t know it as it's a foundation of happiness, success, energy and all the good in our lives… I think this should be taught in school.

The other three areas are called the Zone of InCompetence (things that are not your cup of tea), the Zone of Competence (things you can do and be good at are not that exciting) and the Zone of Excellence (success, challenging to get there but in the long run, you feel bored and living on an autopilot).

Upper limit problems occur when we are making changes and expanding towards the new. They are self-limiting stories, subconscious beliefs, and repeating patterns that can quickly sabotage our success, happiness, wealth, and relationships if they are triggered and if we are not seeing them and are not aware of them. 

He calls it inner thermometer. When the heat rises the meter blows. I often talk about them as the inner glass ceiling. 

You might see through the glass where you want to go and what you want. But there is something invisible in you that blocks the way, and you can't move forward, even you try. When a big moment of taking the step towards the goal comes, somehow you just fail or something bad happens. It's so painful. 

That is the subconscious pattern preventing you from greater success and happiness and protecting you from failure. We get scared.

"It was not for me", "I can't do this", "It's too difficult""This always happens to me." Many people give up too soon.. When the problems come, then it's time to learn and move on. 

It's about fear of happiness, fear of success or fear of failure. Often I see when someone's life is not flowing, growing and they feel stuck, bored or unsatisfied and that has been going for a while. They will start sabotaging it by all kind of: problem creating, diseases and obstacles - of-course subconsciously. Problems with money, career, relationships, health, accidents, continuous stress, and addictions…If you recognise yourself in this kind of cycle, you want to break it.

Our mind doesn't like the changes, and earlier harmful experiences have created that safety zone, that we would rather stay in, than take a risk and try to do it again. Relationships are a great example. Commitments are always risky but the rewards are great, right? And a good relationship with others and with ourselves requires constant care, growth, awareness, and communication.

My client hired me to help her get clarity, find her true potential and creativity and feel confident and connected with herself again. She was successful in her career but she didn’t find the lifestyle satisfying anymore. She didn't know exactly what kind of job she wanted next but she wanted changes and to do it differently this time. We got clear on what kind of life and job she really wanted.

Last week she signed the agreement with a new company. It’s the kind of work she loves doing most and because of the job, she will move to Europe with her family. They get a real fresh start, to travel more and see places with the kids like she wanted. New opportunities and adventures for everyone. It was everything she had desired and it happened in the most unexpected of ways.

Still, she wasn't able to feel happy about it. There were what ifs and doubt for sure. If she negotiated enough and so forth. She got into an argument with her husband, while they could be celebrating.

She hit her inner glass ceiling. Her dreams and desires were coming true like she had wanted.

I asked her to turn it all the other way round. How much more abundance the move would bring her. We listed it all and actually with the bonuses she would be able to make more than she did before. As she loves the job, the possibilities are great. The move would get her closer to her husband like she had wanted - it was already happening.

When she realised what was happening and how it was all based in fears and resistance, the unnecessary worries and fears started to release and she found the joy.

 

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And if you'd like some resources on overcoming your inner barriers I shared my favorite list of 6 books that are helping us see things differently so that we can grow in all areas of life. Read it here.
 

With love and gratitude,
Jenni

If You Crave Change Read These Books


All these books are quite different but in the end, they're all about the life views, and beliefs, forcing us to question the habits of thinking and behaving. 


1. Braving the Wilderness by Brene Brown.
The Quest for True Belonging and the Courage to Stand Alone. About speaking your Truth and recognizing your own value. "The foundation of courage is vulnerability."

2. The Big Leap by Gay Hendricks.
For recognizing the upper limit problems (this is a fascinating concept) and knowing your zone of genius. 

3. Better Than Before by Gretchen Rubin.
"The four tendencies" Understanding my tendency has been invaluable to me. "To shape our habits successfully we must know ourselves."

4. High-Performance Habits by Brendon Burchard.
These researched habits are pure gold. I rarely read business self-help books and don't really talk about high performance as it has sounded cold to me. But I changed my mind when I read this book. It is all about human performance.

5. Inward by Yung Pueblo.
There is so much wisdom here. His Instagram page is fantastic, full of spiritual poems. "I gathered my habits and started releasing the ones that can never lead me to lasting freedom and joy."  
6. Loving what is: Four Questions that Can Change Your Life by Byron Katie. 
Find solutions to complicated situations, get clarity on relationships, and change the harmful beliefs and self-limiting stories. I have used the Work personally and with my clients for years. “It’s not the problem that causes our suffering; it’s our thinking about the problem.”

You create your habits and your habits create your life. 

I hope you find this list useful!

 

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With love and gratitude,
Jenni

The real reason why resolutions fail

How has your New Year started? Did you make big promises, visions and life goals?

I’m happy if you did as it’s a great way to make positive change things. 

You probably committed yourself to exercise more, save money, learn a new skill, land a new job and get that career going, manage your time or stress better, be healthier, change bad habits, improve relationships or you just wanted to become a better person.

In general, these things make us happier.

Nevertheless, it’s rare people can keep their resolutions.

Approximately 80% of resolutions fail by the second week of February.  

Why?

The common reasons why people fail to accomplish their goals and resolutions:

  • they set too high and unrealistic expectations (we can’t have everything at once and change faster than we can)
  • they are not explicit about their desires and goals (details and thinking is needed)
  • they don’t plan how to make it happen
  • they lack real motivation and commitment

These reasons are very logical. 

It’s painful to realize what you trying to do is not working. 

It can feel like you are standing in the way of your own happiness and success. Even strong willpower doesn’t work and it’s definitely not fun anymore.

The real reason why people fail accomplishing their goals is not based on logic. 

It's because your mind is wired to your old habits of thinking and behaving.

Your feelings and often unconscious emotional patterns always beat the logic and willpower.

Always.       

That's what keeps you in your familiar, no matter it’s painful.

Your mind makes you believe that what you want is not for you, it keeps you repeating the old patterns and habits that are not making you happy anymore.

There might even be a stiff belief you are not able to change or deserving the new, happier life. And that's not true!

This is the reason why diets, saving or making more money or personal development plans, exercise programs and resolutions, in general, won’t work.

Successful resolutions require: 

  • gentle willpower
  • dedication 
  • a clear goal
  • consistency 
  • focusing on everyday “feel good about it” intentions
  • action - take small steps towards your goal on a daily basis and let go of the obsession with the end goal and outcome (enjoying today and doing it with ease and grace) 

Never stop believing and taking action. The real change begins within. 

What you want is available to you.

Do the work, get help and support from the others and keep going.
Day by day and step by step.  

Much love, Jenni
 

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How I dramatically changed my life with law of attraction (and met my soulmate)

Five years ago I had a big dream. 

My dream was to find a solid, truthfully loving, kind, and reliable partner. The one who would be my best friend, my partner in crime and as independent as I am but who would love togetherness as much as I do. 

I had been going through quite rough life experiences and painful relationships earlier that I felt timid to even dream about it. 

I seriously thought about sacrificing my life for humanitarian work, helping others, and living alone as a modern nun! 

At the age of 35, I was so broken that it sounded like a valid option for me. 

I had already jumped out from the corporate world and I was creating a purpose-driven business based on my values, intuition, desires and skills. I wanted nothing more than to find my true passions and do meaningful work. I was researching happiness, psychology, healing methods, and universal laws on how to lead and create life instead of drifting in life. 

I had realized that I was the one who had been standing my way, so I focused on healing my old emotional wounds holistically and re-connecting with myself again.

So I already took the responsibility of my experiences, my emotions and started releasing the old hurtful patterns that I had repeated for a long time. Not only in relationships but I had played small in all areas of life, being too afraid and too kind to start living on my own terms and be myself, as I had no idea how to even do it! 

I was literally living the Holstee Manifesto true, which I still have on my wall. 

My awareness grew rapidly, and I also started feeling more love. My love an appreciation towards everything grew exponentially, when I started to feel free and more of myself again.  

So much more that I started believing again that there would be someone, somewhere in the world, who was meant for me.

I set the stakes as high as all my new dreams - I determined that I’d rather live alone the rest of my life if I wouldn’t meet The One. 

Nevertheless, I didn’t run out to speed dates or started hunting anyone down, it didn't feel right. But I allowed myself to "meet someone anywhere anytime" like everyone were saying to me. I trusted the unknown, set intentions and I felt my visions daily. 

As I had already made some shifts before, and got the confirmation that it is be possible to create the bid leaps - make our desires true, rapidly. I had been able to create and attract good things into my life - my career, my amazing apartment, the way I got out from the business world, the finances, the yoga teacher training in Nicaragua (which was the first training on my new transformational journey) - and it had all been there, on my vision board, and I had used the power of my mind and intentions to manifest it. 

I had started believing, through my street-science research, that it is possible to lead our lives by shifting our energy, mindset, thoughts and focus - and create our reality from inside out. 

  • All that requires letting go of the struggling, pushing, and over-controlling. 
  • Also letting go of the how’s, how it all would happen, and focusing on creating the heart-based intentions. 

It was almost overwhelming to realize how powerful beings we really are, when we use our free will and make conscious choices and bring our hearts to it!

Things started to flow easily and effortlessly. Soon I was bursting love and also felt so lonely sometimes, but I kept feeling and believing in my visions. I knew I was ready to meet someone, I just didn’t know how and what should do I do about it.  

I wouldn’t have met my husband without the help of invisible forces, the guidance that I got from the unknown psychic astrologist. One night I saw her ad online and ordered a free reading just for fun.

It changed my life.  

Next day I got an email from her and she was guiding me what I needed to do in order to meet my soulmate. She was urging me to not to miss the opportunities that would be available for me shortly in two months.

Do more self-work, release your old beliefs about relationships, she said. And spent more time online, your first encounter will happen on a huge online service. She also said I’d win a large amount of money. 

There was doubt, for sure, as I couldn’t believe it would be possible to have something so good happening to me. But she seemed to know a lot of details about me without knowing anything about me. As I had nothing to lose, I decided to play, have fun, and get myself vulnerably out there.

I had not signed up for any large online dating sites as that didn't feel right either. My ex-boss had started an online dating startup, and she had created an account for me, but there were not that many people. So I didn’t do much more than detoxing my mind and spent more time online. That’s what I did anyway, so I forgot the whole thing! 

And so it happened. All my efforts were rewarded.

Four years ago, two months after I got that reading, we met online in between those specifics dates she wrote about. Exactly like she described; first online on that dating site, then in Facebook and then soon on a blind date. We lived only a few blocks away from each other. 

Our relationship developed smoothly and quickly, and he turned out to be exactly who I had been  looking for. 

Last weekend we celebrated our third wedding anniversary.

  • I have learned that communication, listening, and appreciation create the foundation for the relationship - starting from yourself. 
  • We can’t either ignore the mirror effect, that repeats in every human relationships: You get what you give and can learn a lot about yourself from what you see.
  • When you change yourself, others will change around you (I have witnessed this multiple times during my marriage). 

Dreamy, cheesy love-story but all true.

Since then I have created many more leaps - moving to New York almost three years ago was one of them.

It's called a leap when the desire happens fast, and pretty effortlessly and it's based on clear, heart-based intention. It's not a magic skill, it's simply about the energy and physics, the law of attraction.

We manifest everything, not only good things. It's much more fun to do it intentionally and enjoy the good results - this is what I call Self-Mastery - the way I live and many, many successful people live too. 

Learn all about this in practice, how to connect with your real passions and to start using these tools and visualization part of your life in my new online program: The Clarity - Journey to Self-Mastery.

Much love,
Jenni

The Glad Show with Meg Berry on Self-love, Tantra and the Alchemy of Innocence

Meg Berry is a wellness professional, alt country singer-songwriter, and mother of three, Meg Berry, a.k.a. Tantra Cowgirl, is the owner of Artful Body studio in New Jersey and teaches classical Pilates, Tantra Core, MomCore and Tantra courses in person and online. She is the creator of Tantra Core, which combines the Tantric philosophy of wellness with the Pilates philosophy of fitness through movement and breathwork.

After healing her lifelong PTSD and body dysmorphia with Tantra, Meg was lit up with the desire to make Tantra and its effective healing accessible to everyone. She has the desire to make it accessible and effective to everyone seeking health and vitality - and Meg combines the Tantric philosophy of wellness through movement and breathwork.

On this episode we talk about:

  • Meg's story on how she was able to heal herself
  • What Tantra is really about 
  • When you learn to breathe you ignite the healing and wellbeing
  • If you can feel it you can heal it
  • Beautiful Bliss Breathe meditation; meditation of senses (video below)

We had some issues with the Internet while recording this episode on Facebook Live, so we shoot the meditation on a separate video. Which actually works much better!

Watch the full interview here

The Alchemy of Innocence meditation:

Once you have watched or listened to the show, we would love to hear from you.

If you know anyone who would love this episode, please share online and with your friends! 

Love, 
Jenni

P.S. What topics or who would you like to see on The Glad Show? Comment below!

Alyson Noël: Don't believe what people say to you

Alyson Noël is the #1 New York Times bestselling, award-winning, author of 26 novels. With 9 New York Times bestsellers and over 8 million copies in print, her books have been translated into 36 languages and sold in over 200 countries. 

You may have read her novel series The Immortals, Riley Bloom, Soul Seekers or Beautiful Idols. Her Young Adult novel, Saving Zoë, is soon to be a major motion picture starring Vanessa Marano, and Laura Marano, with Jeffrey G. Hunt directing. 

I met Alyson three years ago in Bali where I started writing my first book. We sat down to discuss how she created an impressive, successful career by following her passions and building amazing success as an author.

In this episode Alyson shares:

  • How she became a full-time writer after working for multiple other jobs for a long time
  • How she, after working with her first book for 15 years, got it published 
  • Her daily habits and pragmatic approach and guidance for aspiring writers
  • When is the right time to go after your dreams
  • Why failing and being rejected is important for your growth and success
  • What "you only need one yes" means
  • Why you need to take responsibility of your stories, gifts, and skills and make the effort to get them out to the world without believing what people say to you
     

Watch the video here

Or listen to the audio here: 

 

Once you have watched or listened to the show, we would love to hear from you.

What is your big dream? Do you have the story or an idea in your mind that doesn't leave you alone?

If you have something you want to put out into the world, share your idea in the comments below. Let us know how does your first baby step look like and when are you going to take it?

I guarantee magic happens, when you put the intention out there.

Like Duke Ellington said: "I don't need time, all I need is deadline." 

Also, if you know anyone who would love this episode, please share with your friends! 

Love, 
Jenni 

P.S. Here's two book wonderful book recommendations about creativity: Story by Robert Mckee and The Artist's Way by Julia Cameron - Enjoy!

The Glad Show: Stop. Reset. Play.

Why happiness requires everyday practice? 

In this intimate interview, I talk with Anne Vainio about her unique story. After drastic losses and facing serious health issues she started a journey to the self and shifted from self-ignorance and numbness to self-knowledge and awareness - and built a new foundation to her life. 


IN THIS EPISODE:

  • What does it really mean to connect with your true self.
  • Changing from achievement to consistency and alignment.
  • The essence of physical, emotional, mental and spiritual clarity. 
  • Why reinforcing happiness must be part of everyday routines.
  • Big dreams can be achieved with consistent, patient steps.
  • Clear future vision and intentions keep the passion and motivation high.
  • Have fun: Stop. Reset. Play.  

We also hit the big question: Is it necessary to lose something important before we take it seriously and find the motivation to seek help and make the changes?
 

Watch the video here

Or listen to the audio here: 


The biggest lesson here is to learn how to listen and trust the inner voice and stop comparing ourselves with others.

To get connected with your authentic self again and creating clarity for the future, we basically went deep with these four questions:

  • Who am I? 
  • What you want; what is that your deepest desire? 
  • What is meaningful and fulfilling for you?
  • How to make it happen?

 

Stop. reset. play.
 

And have fun! Thank you so much for watching!

If you know anyone who could find it useful, please share with your friends! 

Karlyn Borysenko: workplace bullying led to a book deal

In this episode of The Glad Show, I talk with Karlyn Borysenko, who is an organizational psychologist, owner, and principal of Zen Workplace.

We deep dive into her personal story and experiences about workplace bullying and how she got fired when it happened.

All that eventually led to finding her own company, signing 6-figure agreements and getting a book deal. We talk about fears, patience, humanity, and especially, how to get courageously started when you have an important message and mission that helps to change the world for better. 

She shares how she found her way out from the unhealthy environment, got in touch with her real passion and started helping organizations create healthier and happier work environments. 

There is so much more, so just dive in...

Watch the video here

Or listen to the audio here: 


Once you've had a chance to watch or listen, please join us in the comments on the blog.

I'm curious and interested in hearing what resonated most with you on Karlyn’s story?

Specifically… I'd like to ask you: What kind of personal story do you want to write in the future?

Thank you so much for reading and watching, I really hope you enjoy the interview! If you like it please share with your friends and social media. 

 

P.S. later I contacted Karlyn to ask her advice on workplace bullying, what to do when it happens? And this is what she replied:

Get out. Seriously. Go find another job. Don’t go to HR, because they probably won’t help you. The person bullying you has probably bullied other people before and HR likely knows about it and hasn’t done anything about it. You want to go find somewhere that will value you and allow you to thrive. And know that you’re not crazy, you’re not doing anything wrong, it’s not your fault. You haven’t done anything to deserve it. It’s not a reflection of your value or what you can contribute to the organization, so don’t let it get to you. When you’re out of it and are in a place that appreciates you, you’ll be able to look back on the situation and see it for what it is. www.zenworkplace.com