Five years ago I had a big dream.
My dream was to find a solid, truthfully loving, kind, and reliable partner. The one who would be my best friend, my partner in crime and as independent as I am but who would love togetherness as much as I do.
I had been going through quite rough life experiences and painful relationships earlier that I felt timid to even dream about it.
I seriously thought about sacrificing my life for humanitarian work, helping others, and living alone as a modern nun!
At the age of 35, I was so broken that it sounded like a valid option for me.
I had already jumped out from the corporate world and I was creating a purpose-driven business based on my values, intuition, desires and skills. I wanted nothing more than to find my true passions and do meaningful work. I was researching happiness, psychology, healing methods, and universal laws on how to lead and create life instead of drifting in life.
I had realized that I was the one who had been standing my way, so I focused on healing my old emotional wounds holistically and re-connecting with myself again.
So I already took the responsibility of my experiences, my emotions and started releasing the old hurtful patterns that I had repeated for a long time. Not only in relationships but I had played small in all areas of life, being too afraid and too kind to start living on my own terms and be myself, as I had no idea how to even do it!
I was literally living the Holstee Manifesto true, which I still have on my wall.
My awareness grew rapidly, and I also started feeling more love. My love an appreciation towards everything grew exponentially, when I started to feel free and more of myself again.
So much more that I started believing again that there would be someone, somewhere in the world, who was meant for me.
I set the stakes as high as all my new dreams - I determined that I’d rather live alone the rest of my life if I wouldn’t meet The One.
Nevertheless, I didn’t run out to speed dates or started hunting anyone down, it didn't feel right. But I allowed myself to "meet someone anywhere anytime" like everyone were saying to me. I trusted the unknown, set intentions and I felt my visions daily.
As I had already made some shifts before, and got the confirmation that it is be possible to create the bid leaps - make our desires true, rapidly. I had been able to create and attract good things into my life - my career, my amazing apartment, the way I got out from the business world, the finances, the yoga teacher training in Nicaragua (which was the first training on my new transformational journey) - and it had all been there, on my vision board, and I had used the power of my mind and intentions to manifest it.
I had started believing, through my street-science research, that it is possible to lead our lives by shifting our energy, mindset, thoughts and focus - and create our reality from inside out.
- All that requires letting go of the struggling, pushing, and over-controlling.
- Also letting go of the how’s, how it all would happen, and focusing on creating the heart-based intentions.
It was almost overwhelming to realize how powerful beings we really are, when we use our free will and make conscious choices and bring our hearts to it!
Things started to flow easily and effortlessly. Soon I was bursting love and also felt so lonely sometimes, but I kept feeling and believing in my visions. I knew I was ready to meet someone, I just didn’t know how and what should do I do about it.
I wouldn’t have met my husband without the help of invisible forces, the guidance that I got from the unknown psychic astrologist. One night I saw her ad online and ordered a free reading just for fun.
It changed my life.
Next day I got an email from her and she was guiding me what I needed to do in order to meet my soulmate. She was urging me to not to miss the opportunities that would be available for me shortly in two months.
Do more self-work, release your old beliefs about relationships, she said. And spent more time online, your first encounter will happen on a huge online service. She also said I’d win a large amount of money.
There was doubt, for sure, as I couldn’t believe it would be possible to have something so good happening to me. But she seemed to know a lot of details about me without knowing anything about me. As I had nothing to lose, I decided to play, have fun, and get myself vulnerably out there.
I had not signed up for any large online dating sites as that didn't feel right either. My ex-boss had started an online dating startup, and she had created an account for me, but there were not that many people. So I didn’t do much more than detoxing my mind and spent more time online. That’s what I did anyway, so I forgot the whole thing!
And so it happened. All my efforts were rewarded.
Four years ago, two months after I got that reading, we met online in between those specifics dates she wrote about. Exactly like she described; first online on that dating site, then in Facebook and then soon on a blind date. We lived only a few blocks away from each other.
Our relationship developed smoothly and quickly, and he turned out to be exactly who I had been looking for.
Last weekend we celebrated our third wedding anniversary.
- I have learned that communication, listening, and appreciation create the foundation for the relationship - starting from yourself.
- We can’t either ignore the mirror effect, that repeats in every human relationships: You get what you give and can learn a lot about yourself from what you see.
- When you change yourself, others will change around you (I have witnessed this multiple times during my marriage).
Dreamy, cheesy love-story but all true.
Since then I have created many more leaps - moving to New York almost three years ago was one of them.
It's called a leap when the desire happens fast, and pretty effortlessly and it's based on clear, heart-based intention. It's not a magic skill, it's simply about the energy and physics, the law of attraction.
We manifest everything, not only good things. It's much more fun to do it intentionally and enjoy the good results - this is what I call Self-Mastery - the way I live and many, many successful people live too.
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