My 2018 Manifesto

2017 was like a year-long holistic detox for me.

There were so many life lessons, so much change and a lot of work. I took a massive leap in many areas of life by turning inward, opening my awareness and standing up in a new way. 

It is time to construct and create a new, steadier foundation. This manifesto is the key to it.

My 2018 manifesto: 

• Do my things, work, and business in my way - less by the book or how it’s “supposed” to be done. 
• Focus on feeling good - release tension and set an intention, at every moment. 
• Trust my gut and intuition. 
• Care, try, and think less - focus on doing more and following through.
• Bend time, not myself - stay rooted.
• Choose carefully who I work with. 
• Work smarter, not harder. 
• Let go of the need to control the things that I can’t affect (there must be an endpoint for this).
• Embrace my personal needs, my body, my health and wellbeing (after struggling with physical issues and going through pretty dark times mentally I am now feeling so healthy and well that I can’t appreciate it more). 
• Be powerful, vulnerable me and speak my truth. 

External abundance, results, and achievements follow when we keep our visions clear and stay internally aligned - and courageously walk towards them.

New Year, New Feel, New Chances, Same Dreams, Fresh Starts.

How about you - what are your commitments for this year?

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Love,
Jenni

Do You Constantly Hit Your Upper Limits?

Last week I shared the list of six books that are helping us to overcome the inner barriers and see things differently so that we can grow in all areas of life.

One of them was Gay Hendricks' book The Big Leap in which he talks about "upper limit problems" that are our inner glass ceilings often holding us from reaching out our Zone of Genius...

What is the Zone of Genius?

Simply put the Zone of Genius is the area of life where you are shining and doing what you absolutely love, and you can use all of your gifts and talents. Usually, you get into a flow mode when you are operating in your genius.

We all have our unique genius, but most people have no idea what it is for them. I can relate, it wasn't clear to me either, for a very long time. It’s a bit funny that we don’t know it as it's a foundation of happiness, success, energy and all the good in our lives… I think this should be taught in school.

The other three areas are called the Zone of InCompetence (things that are not your cup of tea), the Zone of Competence (things you can do and be good at are not that exciting) and the Zone of Excellence (success, challenging to get there but in the long run, you feel bored and living on an autopilot).

Upper limit problems occur when we are making changes and expanding towards the new. They are self-limiting stories, subconscious beliefs, and repeating patterns that can quickly sabotage our success, happiness, wealth, and relationships if they are triggered and if we are not seeing them and are not aware of them. 

He calls it inner thermometer. When the heat rises the meter blows. I often talk about them as the inner glass ceiling. 

You might see through the glass where you want to go and what you want. But there is something invisible in you that blocks the way, and you can't move forward, even you try. When a big moment of taking the step towards the goal comes, somehow you just fail or something bad happens. It's so painful. 

That is the subconscious pattern preventing you from greater success and happiness and protecting you from failure. We get scared.

"It was not for me", "I can't do this", "It's too difficult""This always happens to me." Many people give up too soon.. When the problems come, then it's time to learn and move on. 

It's about fear of happiness, fear of success or fear of failure. Often I see when someone's life is not flowing, growing and they feel stuck, bored or unsatisfied and that has been going for a while. They will start sabotaging it by all kind of: problem creating, diseases and obstacles - of-course subconsciously. Problems with money, career, relationships, health, accidents, continuous stress, and addictions…If you recognise yourself in this kind of cycle, you want to break it.

Our mind doesn't like the changes, and earlier harmful experiences have created that safety zone, that we would rather stay in, than take a risk and try to do it again. Relationships are a great example. Commitments are always risky but the rewards are great, right? And a good relationship with others and with ourselves requires constant care, growth, awareness, and communication.

My client hired me to help her get clarity, find her true potential and creativity and feel confident and connected with herself again. She was successful in her career but she didn’t find the lifestyle satisfying anymore. She didn't know exactly what kind of job she wanted next but she wanted changes and to do it differently this time. We got clear on what kind of life and job she really wanted.

Last week she signed the agreement with a new company. It’s the kind of work she loves doing most and because of the job, she will move to Europe with her family. They get a real fresh start, to travel more and see places with the kids like she wanted. New opportunities and adventures for everyone. It was everything she had desired and it happened in the most unexpected of ways.

Still, she wasn't able to feel happy about it. There were what ifs and doubt for sure. If she negotiated enough and so forth. She got into an argument with her husband, while they could be celebrating.

She hit her inner glass ceiling. Her dreams and desires were coming true like she had wanted.

I asked her to turn it all the other way round. How much more abundance the move would bring her. We listed it all and actually with the bonuses she would be able to make more than she did before. As she loves the job, the possibilities are great. The move would get her closer to her husband like she had wanted - it was already happening.

When she realised what was happening and how it was all based in fears and resistance, the unnecessary worries and fears started to release and she found the joy.

 

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And if you'd like some resources on overcoming your inner barriers I shared my favorite list of 6 books that are helping us see things differently so that we can grow in all areas of life. Read it here.
 

With love and gratitude,
Jenni

If You Crave Change Read These Books


All these books are quite different but in the end, they're all about the life views, and beliefs, forcing us to question the habits of thinking and behaving. 


1. Braving the Wilderness by Brene Brown.
The Quest for True Belonging and the Courage to Stand Alone. About speaking your Truth and recognizing your own value. "The foundation of courage is vulnerability."

2. The Big Leap by Gay Hendricks.
For recognizing the upper limit problems (this is a fascinating concept) and knowing your zone of genius. 

3. Better Than Before by Gretchen Rubin.
"The four tendencies" Understanding my tendency has been invaluable to me. "To shape our habits successfully we must know ourselves."

4. High-Performance Habits by Brendon Burchard.
These researched habits are pure gold. I rarely read business self-help books and don't really talk about high performance as it has sounded cold to me. But I changed my mind when I read this book. It is all about human performance.

5. Inward by Yung Pueblo.
There is so much wisdom here. His Instagram page is fantastic, full of spiritual poems. "I gathered my habits and started releasing the ones that can never lead me to lasting freedom and joy."  
6. Loving what is: Four Questions that Can Change Your Life by Byron Katie. 
Find solutions to complicated situations, get clarity on relationships, and change the harmful beliefs and self-limiting stories. I have used the Work personally and with my clients for years. “It’s not the problem that causes our suffering; it’s our thinking about the problem.”

You create your habits and your habits create your life. 

I hope you find this list useful!

 

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With love and gratitude,
Jenni

The real reason why resolutions fail

How has your New Year started? Did you make big promises, visions and life goals?

I’m happy if you did as it’s a great way to make positive change things. 

You probably committed yourself to exercise more, save money, learn a new skill, land a new job and get that career going, manage your time or stress better, be healthier, change bad habits, improve relationships or you just wanted to become a better person.

In general, these things make us happier.

Nevertheless, it’s rare people can keep their resolutions.

Approximately 80% of resolutions fail by the second week of February.  

Why?

The common reasons why people fail to accomplish their goals and resolutions:

  • they set too high and unrealistic expectations (we can’t have everything at once and change faster than we can)
  • they are not explicit about their desires and goals (details and thinking is needed)
  • they don’t plan how to make it happen
  • they lack real motivation and commitment

These reasons are very logical. 

It’s painful to realize what you trying to do is not working. 

It can feel like you are standing in the way of your own happiness and success. Even strong willpower doesn’t work and it’s definitely not fun anymore.

The real reason why people fail accomplishing their goals is not based on logic. 

It's because your mind is wired to your old habits of thinking and behaving.

Your feelings and often unconscious emotional patterns always beat the logic and willpower.

Always.       

That's what keeps you in your familiar, no matter it’s painful.

Your mind makes you believe that what you want is not for you, it keeps you repeating the old patterns and habits that are not making you happy anymore.

There might even be a stiff belief you are not able to change or deserving the new, happier life. And that's not true!

This is the reason why diets, saving or making more money or personal development plans, exercise programs and resolutions, in general, won’t work.

Successful resolutions require: 

  • gentle willpower
  • dedication 
  • a clear goal
  • consistency 
  • focusing on everyday “feel good about it” intentions
  • action - take small steps towards your goal on a daily basis and let go of the obsession with the end goal and outcome (enjoying today and doing it with ease and grace) 

Never stop believing and taking action. The real change begins within. 

What you want is available to you.

Do the work, get help and support from the others and keep going.
Day by day and step by step.  

Much love, Jenni
 

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How I dramatically changed my life with law of attraction (and met my soulmate)

Five years ago I had a big dream. 

My dream was to find a solid, truthfully loving, kind, and reliable partner. The one who would be my best friend, my partner in crime and as independent as I am but who would love togetherness as much as I do. 

I had been going through quite rough life experiences and painful relationships earlier that I felt timid to even dream about it. 

I seriously thought about sacrificing my life for humanitarian work, helping others, and living alone as a modern nun! 

At the age of 35, I was so broken that it sounded like a valid option for me. 

I had already jumped out from the corporate world and I was creating a purpose-driven business based on my values, intuition, desires and skills. I wanted nothing more than to find my true passions and do meaningful work. I was researching happiness, psychology, healing methods, and universal laws on how to lead and create life instead of drifting in life. 

I had realized that I was the one who had been standing my way, so I focused on healing my old emotional wounds holistically and re-connecting with myself again.

So I already took the responsibility of my experiences, my emotions and started releasing the old hurtful patterns that I had repeated for a long time. Not only in relationships but I had played small in all areas of life, being too afraid and too kind to start living on my own terms and be myself, as I had no idea how to even do it! 

I was literally living the Holstee Manifesto true, which I still have on my wall. 

My awareness grew rapidly, and I also started feeling more love. My love an appreciation towards everything grew exponentially, when I started to feel free and more of myself again.  

So much more that I started believing again that there would be someone, somewhere in the world, who was meant for me.

I set the stakes as high as all my new dreams - I determined that I’d rather live alone the rest of my life if I wouldn’t meet The One. 

Nevertheless, I didn’t run out to speed dates or started hunting anyone down, it didn't feel right. But I allowed myself to "meet someone anywhere anytime" like everyone were saying to me. I trusted the unknown, set intentions and I felt my visions daily. 

As I had already made some shifts before, and got the confirmation that it is be possible to create the bid leaps - make our desires true, rapidly. I had been able to create and attract good things into my life - my career, my amazing apartment, the way I got out from the business world, the finances, the yoga teacher training in Nicaragua (which was the first training on my new transformational journey) - and it had all been there, on my vision board, and I had used the power of my mind and intentions to manifest it. 

I had started believing, through my street-science research, that it is possible to lead our lives by shifting our energy, mindset, thoughts and focus - and create our reality from inside out. 

  • All that requires letting go of the struggling, pushing, and over-controlling. 
  • Also letting go of the how’s, how it all would happen, and focusing on creating the heart-based intentions. 

It was almost overwhelming to realize how powerful beings we really are, when we use our free will and make conscious choices and bring our hearts to it!

Things started to flow easily and effortlessly. Soon I was bursting love and also felt so lonely sometimes, but I kept feeling and believing in my visions. I knew I was ready to meet someone, I just didn’t know how and what should do I do about it.  

I wouldn’t have met my husband without the help of invisible forces, the guidance that I got from the unknown psychic astrologist. One night I saw her ad online and ordered a free reading just for fun.

It changed my life.  

Next day I got an email from her and she was guiding me what I needed to do in order to meet my soulmate. She was urging me to not to miss the opportunities that would be available for me shortly in two months.

Do more self-work, release your old beliefs about relationships, she said. And spent more time online, your first encounter will happen on a huge online service. She also said I’d win a large amount of money. 

There was doubt, for sure, as I couldn’t believe it would be possible to have something so good happening to me. But she seemed to know a lot of details about me without knowing anything about me. As I had nothing to lose, I decided to play, have fun, and get myself vulnerably out there.

I had not signed up for any large online dating sites as that didn't feel right either. My ex-boss had started an online dating startup, and she had created an account for me, but there were not that many people. So I didn’t do much more than detoxing my mind and spent more time online. That’s what I did anyway, so I forgot the whole thing! 

And so it happened. All my efforts were rewarded.

Four years ago, two months after I got that reading, we met online in between those specifics dates she wrote about. Exactly like she described; first online on that dating site, then in Facebook and then soon on a blind date. We lived only a few blocks away from each other. 

Our relationship developed smoothly and quickly, and he turned out to be exactly who I had been  looking for. 

Last weekend we celebrated our third wedding anniversary.

  • I have learned that communication, listening, and appreciation create the foundation for the relationship - starting from yourself. 
  • We can’t either ignore the mirror effect, that repeats in every human relationships: You get what you give and can learn a lot about yourself from what you see.
  • When you change yourself, others will change around you (I have witnessed this multiple times during my marriage). 

Dreamy, cheesy love-story but all true.

Since then I have created many more leaps - moving to New York almost three years ago was one of them.

It's called a leap when the desire happens fast, and pretty effortlessly and it's based on clear, heart-based intention. It's not a magic skill, it's simply about the energy and physics, the law of attraction.

We manifest everything, not only good things. It's much more fun to do it intentionally and enjoy the good results - this is what I call Self-Mastery - the way I live and many, many successful people live too. 

Learn all about this in practice, how to connect with your real passions and to start using these tools and visualization part of your life in my new online program: The Clarity - Journey to Self-Mastery.

Much love,
Jenni

The Glad Show with Meg Berry on Self-love, Tantra and the Alchemy of Innocence

Meg Berry is a wellness professional, alt country singer-songwriter, and mother of three, Meg Berry, a.k.a. Tantra Cowgirl, is the owner of Artful Body studio in New Jersey and teaches classical Pilates, Tantra Core, MomCore and Tantra courses in person and online. She is the creator of Tantra Core, which combines the Tantric philosophy of wellness with the Pilates philosophy of fitness through movement and breathwork.

After healing her lifelong PTSD and body dysmorphia with Tantra, Meg was lit up with the desire to make Tantra and its effective healing accessible to everyone. She has the desire to make it accessible and effective to everyone seeking health and vitality - and Meg combines the Tantric philosophy of wellness through movement and breathwork.

On this episode we talk about:

  • Meg's story on how she was able to heal herself
  • What Tantra is really about 
  • When you learn to breathe you ignite the healing and wellbeing
  • If you can feel it you can heal it
  • Beautiful Bliss Breathe meditation; meditation of senses (video below)

We had some issues with the Internet while recording this episode on Facebook Live, so we shoot the meditation on a separate video. Which actually works much better!

Watch the full interview here

The Alchemy of Innocence meditation:

Once you have watched or listened to the show, we would love to hear from you.

If you know anyone who would love this episode, please share online and with your friends! 

Love, 
Jenni

P.S. What topics or who would you like to see on The Glad Show? Comment below!

Alyson Noël: Don't believe what people say to you

Alyson Noël is the #1 New York Times bestselling, award-winning, author of 26 novels. With 9 New York Times bestsellers and over 8 million copies in print, her books have been translated into 36 languages and sold in over 200 countries. 

You may have read her novel series The Immortals, Riley Bloom, Soul Seekers or Beautiful Idols. Her Young Adult novel, Saving Zoë, is soon to be a major motion picture starring Vanessa Marano, and Laura Marano, with Jeffrey G. Hunt directing. 

I met Alyson three years ago in Bali where I started writing my first book. We sat down to discuss how she created an impressive, successful career by following her passions and building amazing success as an author.

In this episode Alyson shares:

  • How she became a full-time writer after working for multiple other jobs for a long time
  • How she, after working with her first book for 15 years, got it published 
  • Her daily habits and pragmatic approach and guidance for aspiring writers
  • When is the right time to go after your dreams
  • Why failing and being rejected is important for your growth and success
  • What "you only need one yes" means
  • Why you need to take responsibility of your stories, gifts, and skills and make the effort to get them out to the world without believing what people say to you
     

Watch the video here

Or listen to the audio here: 

 

Once you have watched or listened to the show, we would love to hear from you.

What is your big dream? Do you have the story or an idea in your mind that doesn't leave you alone?

If you have something you want to put out into the world, share your idea in the comments below. Let us know how does your first baby step look like and when are you going to take it?

I guarantee magic happens, when you put the intention out there.

Like Duke Ellington said: "I don't need time, all I need is deadline." 

Also, if you know anyone who would love this episode, please share with your friends! 

Love, 
Jenni 

P.S. Here's two book wonderful book recommendations about creativity: Story by Robert Mckee and The Artist's Way by Julia Cameron - Enjoy!

The Glad Show: Stop. Reset. Play.

Why happiness requires everyday practice? 

In this intimate interview, I talk with Anne Vainio about her unique story. After drastic losses and facing serious health issues she started a journey to the self and shifted from self-ignorance and numbness to self-knowledge and awareness - and built a new foundation to her life. 


IN THIS EPISODE:

  • What does it really mean to connect with your true self.
  • Changing from achievement to consistency and alignment.
  • The essence of physical, emotional, mental and spiritual clarity. 
  • Why reinforcing happiness must be part of everyday routines.
  • Big dreams can be achieved with consistent, patient steps.
  • Clear future vision and intentions keep the passion and motivation high.
  • Have fun: Stop. Reset. Play.  

We also hit the big question: Is it necessary to lose something important before we take it seriously and find the motivation to seek help and make the changes?
 

Watch the video here

Or listen to the audio here: 


The biggest lesson here is to learn how to listen and trust the inner voice and stop comparing ourselves with others.

To get connected with your authentic self again and creating clarity for the future, we basically went deep with these four questions:

  • Who am I? 
  • What you want; what is that your deepest desire? 
  • What is meaningful and fulfilling for you?
  • How to make it happen?

 

Stop. reset. play.
 

And have fun! Thank you so much for watching!

If you know anyone who could find it useful, please share with your friends! 

Karlyn Borysenko: workplace bullying led to a book deal

In this episode of The Glad Show, I talk with Karlyn Borysenko, who is an organizational psychologist, owner, and principal of Zen Workplace.

We deep dive into her personal story and experiences about workplace bullying and how she got fired when it happened.

All that eventually led to finding her own company, signing 6-figure agreements and getting a book deal. We talk about fears, patience, humanity, and especially, how to get courageously started when you have an important message and mission that helps to change the world for better. 

She shares how she found her way out from the unhealthy environment, got in touch with her real passion and started helping organizations create healthier and happier work environments. 

There is so much more, so just dive in...

Watch the video here

Or listen to the audio here: 


Once you've had a chance to watch or listen, please join us in the comments on the blog.

I'm curious and interested in hearing what resonated most with you on Karlyn’s story?

Specifically… I'd like to ask you: What kind of personal story do you want to write in the future?

Thank you so much for reading and watching, I really hope you enjoy the interview! If you like it please share with your friends and social media. 

 

P.S. later I contacted Karlyn to ask her advice on workplace bullying, what to do when it happens? And this is what she replied:

Get out. Seriously. Go find another job. Don’t go to HR, because they probably won’t help you. The person bullying you has probably bullied other people before and HR likely knows about it and hasn’t done anything about it. You want to go find somewhere that will value you and allow you to thrive. And know that you’re not crazy, you’re not doing anything wrong, it’s not your fault. You haven’t done anything to deserve it. It’s not a reflection of your value or what you can contribute to the organization, so don’t let it get to you. When you’re out of it and are in a place that appreciates you, you’ll be able to look back on the situation and see it for what it is. www.zenworkplace.com

 

What I learned on the saddest day of my life

Overwhelm, anxiety, and feeling drained is, unfortunately, a new norm. I hear that every day from my clients.

And I can relate.

In this vlog I'm talking about the realization that helped me to change the course of my life and gave me the power to take it towards what I really desired and was passionate about: to find my purpose and authentic happiness.   

I'm also talking about why it's crucial to connect with ourselves emotionally, physically and mentally, and how to release the old blockages that keep you stuck in your situation.

You'll get guidance of how to start creating intentional life and why intentions really make a difference for your future.

There is a way out of the constant struggling and set yourself free. 

Watch the video or listen to the audio below.

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Thank you for watching! 

Love,
Jenni

I'll have what she's having

Have you been in the situation that there is something you want and need so badly, but it's just not coming to you? 

Probably it was about money, clients, new job, love, success, luck, happiness, health - the usuals that we all struggle with.

When we don’t get what we want, it’s easy to look others and say: "If I could just get what she's having, then I would be or feel..." and maybe even believe that her life is easier than yours.

This, for sure, creates more worry, frustration, and anxiety, especially when comparison makes us feel bad about ourselves and inadequate, while the others seem to be living the time of their life and making things happen so easily. 

Comparison kills clarity (and confidence)

Other people's successes easily lead us to the wrong direction and make us close the eyes what does it require.

It is a survivorship bias, and it's leading deeper into the hopelessness, as we see the other's successes only on the surface and have no idea what they have gone through to get there. 

It's like a self-help book that gives you guidance of how to do things perfectly right but still it doesn't make you taking action and do and experience it in practice.

There is an endless amount of guidance, inspiration, and self-help books that are showing the right path that takes us to desired goals but in the end, it leaves us so very lonely, as there is a gap in between the idea and the goal: what is wanted and how to get there.

I went through all this felt when I started coaching and working for myself. The change was huge after working for corporates for a long time and then suddenly, I was being responsible only for myself, living in total uncertainty and having no idea how to get forward from there. It was lonely and all my patterns and blocks alarmed and change resistance wanted to stop me. 

My main problem? I had no CLARITY OF what I was doing. 

I threw myself in the worst situation without thinking and planning. I didn't do the work and be specific of:

1) what I was aiming to do
2) how I would get there
3) what if it wouldn’t work out (considering the risks) 

And I focused on the outcome, not the path. Plus I'm multi-passionate and that can cause a lot of distractions if you are not extra clear where you want to go. 

I’m not talking about plan B’s or negative expectations but more likely being a bit more realistic and following up if my plans and things started developing to the right direction. 

People said it should be easy to build a business and income for myself, as I had been in business for over 12 years. Well, it is not that simple - I did completely different work and it changes things a lot when you work for others and when you work for yourself.   

I carried on I was determined and I trusted my inner voice and calling - aNd I had made my commitments.

When I started the second part of this life (that's how I call it), I had promised myself to do anything to find out if it would be possible to be happy every day (it is, no matter the challenges!).

And I wanted to live meaningful life more than let my limiting fears lead it and I was ready to get over never ending thresholds that everyone must face - whatever they do.

Books and self-study programs rarely solve the deep unconscious patterns and personal barriers that keep people standing in their own way and when this goes on for while, it makes them believe they are not good enough, talented enough or smart enough to do what they want as the change also resists itself. 

Too many give up when there are obstacles and inner resistance that feels like you would be are standing in your own way. It's easy to stop believing when it feels lonely and difficult when there is no one to give the right answers. 

Too many are attracted by golden shiny objects without remembering that we can choose our struggles but we can't avoid our struggles - no matter what we do for work.

Choose and be clear of what you are having

You know everything you need to know - it’s there even if you don’t recognize it now. The better you know yourself, your desires and your genius, the easier it is.

I help entrepreneurs and business professionals get clarity, release what holds them back and find the next steps. If you want to know more how would it look like you - book your complimentary clarity session here: Book your session. I am a master to helping people get clear about the next steps.

By the way, success and failure are not that far from each other: "When failure becomes invisible, the difference between failure and success may also become invisible." (you are not so smart.com)

Now I want to hear from you: how has this been for you? How did you find your authentic success? What did you have to learn before it happened?

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Love,
Jenni

6 steps to break a worry habit

A while ago I noticed an unhealthy pattern had sneaked in my life. It was a reminisce of my years in the corporate world, but I hadn't felt it for years, and the old familiar feelings rang my health and wellness alarms.

I don't play with health or happiness anymore, so I looked into my habits (of thinking and behaving) to understand what was causing it and to know how to make changes:

I had a productive phase going on and I was producing a lot of new content. Long to-do list made me minimize the meditation and writing time in the mornings. I worked late and then stayed up late spending "my time" in Instagram and reading work-related books and articles late in the bed.

It was hard to get up in the mornings as I was awake at some point during the nights. I felt tired in the middle of the day. To keep myself going, I had started drinking coffee on the afternoon. I felt tired and wired at the same time.   

I was overdriving myself so that at the end of the week my brain was foggy and my body was over-heated, meaning I felt the blood pressure and cortisol levels were high.

I told myself it's temporary (and at the same time I was afraid it was not) and then I stopped: I don't want to do it this way, no matter what it is - I have a choice.

When I saw all these things and it was clear: I was suffering adrenaline fatigue. I lacked downtime and boundaries. 

In yoga, there is a rule that after an inversion pose it's good to rest the same amount of the time that you have been upside down. 

The same rule works in life: during the busier times, it's important to recharge the batteries - physically and mentally - all the time.

Creativity and productivity - both - require space and time. It's tough to create new ideas and be focused when your mind is full. 

What I did to fix it: 

The moment when I realized what was going on, I wanted to take responsibility for it.

I did the clarity exercise below and reduced all the unnecessary worries - there were not that much left after it - I felt at ease. 

Also, I booked time for acupuncture, scheduled a sweaty yoga class, took a herbal path and did nothing but relaxing for a couple of days - I planned time to relax. I observed my mind carefully and skipped everything that was too overwhelming and making my brain buzzing. I changed the bedtime routines: no more mobile time or work-related reading. Instyle magazine makes me snooze in five minutes. 

In the long run, adrenaline fatigue can create diseases as the body responses to mind’s constant overwhelm negative chatter and requirements.
 

Get to know your stress-factors and know your habits:

  • What habits of yours do you like, why?
  • What habits do you want to change? 

We need to keep track of our habits and know how they affect us - it can be very unconscious. If we don’t know what is creating the stress, we can’t react and respond it.


6 steps to releasing the stressful chaos and worries:

Take a pen and paper or open your notebook, and start answering the following questions:

  1. How do I feel now - in the body and mind?  

  2. What issues are stressing you and causing this feeling? Write them all down no matter it's 99 issues and worries. 

  3. What are the worries that you can't do anything about? The future is not in your hands, the now is.

  4. What can you do to your list? Prioritize them. 

  5. Plan how and when you get those things done (please don’t overplan and exhaust yourself as you can do only three foremost things per day).

  6. Ask yourself why have you chosen to do it? Remind yourself about your what you accomplish when you get there and finish the sentence:
     
    “I am doing this because…” and decide to be excited about it. You need to decide it if you don't feel it.

There you go - now you have a clear plan and you know it's doable and you can affect.

This gives you the motivation, as we all have to eat our shit sandwich as Elizabeth Gilbert calls it: no matter we follow our passions, we still need to do the work, and often it's challenging. 

When you choose to struggle for the things that matter to you and are important, it's not that bad at all as you know it is meaningful to you.   

The worrying thoughts won’t take away tomorrow’s problems, but they will take away today’s joy. 

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With love,
Jenni

Simple Way to Boost Productivity and Increase Focus

I have been the biggest procrastinator I know and the habit caused me a lot of struggle as I was just not able to follow through my plans and desires. (By Gretchen Rubin's framework my tendency type is Rebel, meaning that I resist all, inner and outer, expectations*).  

It has been a huge learning curve for me to learn how to say no, also for myself, and set boundaries, when I just want to do this and that quickly, and ideas pop up in my head, which just distracts me (nowadays I write the them down “for later” so that I make myself to believe that I don't miss a thing).

I know so many of us who work themselves or manage their own time and schedule and struggle a lot with their time management. I wanted to share a technique with you that helps to get things fast and efficiently and it helps you to commit your goals. This is something you want to learn!

 

How to increase your productivity, do things efficiently and keep your focus? 

This is called Pomodoro method (Pomodoro means tomato in Italian), which is amazing when you don’t have much time and you want to get things done fast and optimize your time and effort.

Many people use way too much time for simple things as they just don’t do it. This method increases your productivity when you start using it (and it makes you happier). 

Francesco Cirillo was cutting tomatoes when he got the idea of the Pomodoro Technique on the 80’s. 

How would it feel for you if you would feel complete at the end of every day?

First of all (this is my preparation advice):

  • Plan your months, weeks and days (you can also read here how to do it). Splitting your time in chunks keep you on your happy tracks.

  • Clarify the outcome what you want and need to do. What would make you feel complete with the task? What is the tiny little thing that you need and want to get done?

    For example: write and send out the job application or like now in my case, when I have written the blog and sent out my weekly newsletter (get it here).

  • Minimize all the distractions: email, phone, social media accounts - everything that could distract you.
     

Then we are getting into the traditional Pomodoro method:

  • Set the timer for 25 minutes. 
  • Start working - you only have to work for 25 minutes, so it’s not a big deal right?
  • When the alarm peeps, take a 5-10 minute break.

Repeat for four times (100 minutes) and then take a longer 20-minute break (great time for meditation, just taking it easy, get some fresh air and empty your mind).



Why it works?

1) You set a clear intention for what you want to achieve.

2) You minimize all the distractions and focus 100%.

3) You allow yourself to work in small time junks, which is so much easier than climbing to the huge mountain at once and feel overwhelm by it!

4) Small steps - fantastic accomplishments and you will feel COMPLETE, satisfied and rewarded after you are done. 

My warm recommendation, don’t go to social media during the breaks if you don’t really have to - it just create distraction and overwhelm. Reward yourself when you are done and use the timer so you won’t spent hours there ;)

As Francesco's brilliant idea proves: the best ideas always come when you least expect them! No pushing, no struggling - but with life with ease attitude!


With love,
Jenni

P.S. EXTRA TIP As I really care about you, my reader, I want to give you some an extra tip. If you love technology like me, I warmly recommend you to start managing your technology rather than letting it inslave you (no matter all those likes, comments, and hearts make us feel so good).

The first thing to take control is turn off the notifications on your phone - stop those beeps, pop-ups, flashes and all that that takes a way your focus from daily life and important encounters. It gives you time to live more in the moment and reduce frustration and overwhelm.

I removed my Facebook app from my phone and you know what happened - I feel so much freer and I haven't missed a thing (or I don't know about it).

P.S.S. *) If you are interested in creating and braking habits and learn a bit about yourself and your tendency type I warmly recommend Gretchen Rubin's brilliant book Better than Before. 

Are you repeating your parents' mistakes?

Recently at the airport, I was going to the gate in the same group with the parents traveling with their two young boys. The older was walking together with his parents, but the younger was peevish, staying behind and slowing everyone down. He didn't want to go through the security and put all the brakes on to get his parents' attention.

Suddenly this five-year-old, who followed the rest of the family hugging his teddy bear, started crying out aloud:

"You don't like me. Nobody likes me. You like Sam more than me."

Hearing his sad self-judgement burst sudden tears of compassion in my eyes. I had to stop to wipe my tears in private.

The scene was right from my childhood, even the words he used were the same.

I understood so well how he felt!

My cousin still remembers to tease me about the times when I woke everyone up during the night as was crying my 'nobody likes me' cry. No matter how much my mom comforted me, I had already formed a belief that I was not good enough or lovable...

My parents didn't know where it came from nor how to handle it.

It was not my fault, nor it was my parents' fault. They did their best like the most parents do. They just didn't know a better way in the early 80's.

Sometimes, it does only require one sentence or one look, which is enough for the child to form a wrong self-image - it is just that easy.

In my case, I never really learned how to feel and deal with my emotions, fears, and feelings as a child.

Already as a little girl, I learned to think that if I do a lot, become better and improve myself and aim for perfection all the time, then I get approval, then I am enough and earn a reason to receive - the love and approval that I so lacked.

No one required me that.

As an adult, my emotional wound made me work and push myself too much, exhaust myself, create unstable, quite horrible relationships, and all kind of physical issues and patterns - it all comes from the confused mind and misleading beliefs.

Things have changed since and fortunately, we are much more aware of our emotional and spiritual sides.

Emotional abandonment is one of the deepest wounds and difficult to overcome.

We all have emotional wounds and so many of us believe we are not good enough to have and get what we really deserve and want - often very simple things.

We can repeat our family patterns and unhealthy growing methods from generation to generation until we put the stop for it. Any kind of suffering doesn't really run in a family - nor do most of the diseases.

It's not easy to change the behavior or parenting if you don't know and solve your own issues, which is the only way to stop forwarding them to your kids or repeating them in your own life.

That is your responsibility as a parent and you owe it to yourself too (same goes with the relationships): If you repeatably do something that you don't understand and don't like about in yourself (maybe something your parents did to you) - there is a way to change it.

Along the years, on my own healing journey, and working with my clients I have found many techniques how to get over these painful patterns.

One of them is transformational hypnotherapy. This unique method helped me to let go of the final bit of my "I am not enough" (healthy self-love) wound.

This is what my beautiful client Nancy says:

"When I sought help from Jenni I was feeling blocked in my ability to attract the perfect, joyful work for myself, as well as material abundance. I was curious about hypnotherapy and decided to work with Jenni because of her integrity and passion. I believe that the issues and blockages I dealt with have finally been released from me and are gone for good."

If you want to learn how you can release your painful issue, behavior or habit and stop repeating the same old, help is available. To know more what can you do: book your free 15-minute consultation here.

Talk to you soon.

Much love,

Jenni

WHY YOU CAN'T GET STARTED AND MAKE THINGS HAPPEN

Quite often we know exactly what we could do in order to get there, but something just keeps us stuck. Often we don't even know what it is that is preventing us from moving forward, and we just stay stuck.

The more we struggle against our inner voice and calling, the more frustration we create...

I'm talking about fear.

Usually, we are the ones who are standing in the way of our own happiness and success.

There are all kind of fears: fear of happiness, fear of success, fear of what other people think if we star doing what we really want, fear of commitment, fear of not being good enough, fear of receiving...

These are so powerful beliefs and keeping so many people unhappily stuck exactly where they are. No matter they want to live an extraordinary life, in their own terms. They let their fears prevent them to live to the fullest and eventually, they just give up and satisfy and don't use their skills or follow their real passions... And I don't want that happen to you!

THe good news is: there is a way out of it! watch the video below and learn how to do it.

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1) Look within: WHAT IS IT THAT YOU WANT MOST RIGHT NOW? Write down all max. five things that have been bugging you on your "should do/be/have/dream" list. Skip the obvious that already is part of your life; put down only the things that you have resisted most.

Write down all the things that have been bugging you on your "should do/be/have/dream" list. Skip the obvious that already are part of your life; put down only the things that you have resisted most, maybe for a long time.

It can be about finding a new job, asking more money, starting a new hobby or a blog, a website, writing course, developing yourself somehow... 

You are unique, so are your desires, so it is about you.

2) PICK ONE. The first one that you see. Don't start pondering in between the options, you can do them all but you need to start one thing at the time.

3) FEEL IT - face the fear, the resistance - what does it tell you? Accept and approve it: get over it. It just shows you the right way, just do the opposite and believe the opposite your fear and mind is telling you. It just wants to keep your safe, so be gentle with yourself.

4) TAKE ACTION - There is no short-cut to the treasure: what is the first step to getting ahead with it? Now, go ahead and

Now, go ahead and do it.

Just do it.

Taking action and feeling it all is the only way to get over the fears, create a personal breakthrough, feel like a winner and alive! 

When you learn to do this, following through your desires one by one, you will see how changes start happening, your courage will grow and - no matter the fears will never totally leave us (they are keeping us safe in the end)  - we can learn how to live with them and use them as a guidance.

So now, go ahead and do what you want to do!

Much Love, Jenni

10 tips for better sleep (and health and wellness)

We all know how important sleep is for our well-being. Lack of sleep affects the mind, happiness, and weight and can cause all kind of side-symptoms.

People who suffer from insomnia are ready to do anything to get some sleep, I know that from my own experience. Years ago I suffered from insomnia and I know all about the horrors it can cause. In the end, when I took the responsibility of it, I used all these methods to create new evening routines and balance my distracted mind and create a new mindset about sleeping.

10 tips for better sleep

  1. Create healthy evening routines. Adults need routines as well. What are your evening routines? Is it serving your sleeping? Modify your routines, if needed and follow them even while you are traveling and on the weekends. Reserve enough time for your sleeping routines in the evenings.
  2. An hour before bedtime: no social media, internet, games - switch off all the gadgets. No work related reading either but something empowering and positive. TV doesn't belong in the bedroom: it makes your sleep worse and keeps your brain up and running all night. It doesn't remove the stressful thoughts but just distracts your mind other ways. What to do instead? Journal, read, just relax, draw, stretch, meditate or be present and have a conversation with your family.
  3. Set your alarm early in the evening. So that you don't need to think about it just before bedtime.
  4. Write your worry list & work through your thoughts about the day before getting into bed. Don't try to go to bed with stressful thoughts. Write down all the things and thoughts running in your mind - I mean everything including the negative feelings. It helps you to release anxiety that often sneaks in in the middle of the night and then keeps you awake. Remember, what you can't change or affect is not useful worry about. Don't carry the baggage you can't release.
  5. Keep your bedroom dark, quiet and cool. Dark blue is a great, calming color.
  6. Cut off caffeine already on the afternoon (tea, coffee, soda) - it affects to your body. Switch to decaf coffee and tea.
  7. Cut off alcohol: many believe that nightcap or couple of glasses of wine can make it feel easier to fall asleep, but you are more likely to wake up frequently.  And you slowly create a need/addiction with alcohol. If you are ready to explore cut off alcohol for a couple of weeks and you will feel calmer, sleep better and feel more energized.
  8. Take deep breathes (meditate). Close your eyes and breathe. Or put your legs up on the wall and just breathe for 5 to 10 minutes. Very calming and tranquilizing, slowing down your system and stress levels.
  9. Avoid heavy exercise or heavy meals late in the evening.  
  10. If you wake-up in the middle of the night, don't panic - it's fine. Get up, do something calming, reading or meditation and when you feel tired again, go back to bed.

These tips can help to calm down in the evening and release the stress and tension that often disturbs the mind and prevent sleeping. If you suffer from long-term insomnia or if you feel fearful about sleep already in the evening or need to use sleeping aid often or every night, it is good to take it seriously and work things out to avoid more serious issues and exhaustion.

You can learn to sleep again and find new ways to calm yourself down and sleep well again. There are different ways to ease the distracted mind and release insomnia - hypnotherapy is a fast and effective natural therapy method that can help you to learn to sleep again: Read my more here.

If you want to know more could it help for you contact me here.

What are your evening routines, what do you do in the evenings to make sure you sleep well? 

Sweet dreams!

Much love, Jenn

Hypnotherapy cured my insomnia and I learned to sleep again

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I was ASKED JENNI TO HELP ME with THE sleeping problems and insomnia that I had been suffering on and off for over ten years.

I felt desperate as the problem was getting worse no matter I had nothing unusual or stressful going on in my life.

The only help appeared to be getting stronger medicines, and I didn't want that: I just wanted to rest naturally and sleep soundly, as I had done before.

My two-hour hypnotherapy session with Jenni was a deep-dive to my mind and past revealing the personal reasons behind insomnia. After the session, I slept throughout the night.  Only one session and the personalized audio she made for me helped me almost magically to sleep again. I was able to change my thinking and release the old beliefs that caused insomnia. I now know that I can affect to my sleeping.

I now sleep most of the nights soundly until the morning. If I sometimes wake up in the middle of the night, I know it is only natural and I'm not getting anxious anymore, but I feel relaxed about it. I am forever grateful for Jenni who helped me to let go of this nightmare and learn how to sleep again.

If you suffer from sleeping problems or a lot of stress and busyness hypnotherapy is a great and fast way to find a solution and release for your issue. The cause of the issues are always personal and hypnotherapy sessions are always personalized for your needs, so sometimes more than one session is needed. Get more information and book your session by email: info@jenniglad.com.  

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How to practice gratitude & boost happiness, health, and abundance

This is a habit you  w a n t  to bring into your life. Practicing gratitude, a.k.a paying attention to the good things in your life on daily basis, uplifts your mood and gives clarity in just a few minutes.

In the long run, it is an effective practice and a crucial tool helping to manifest your desires and visions. Practicing gratitude keeps you going towards your goals and mindful in the moments, while you get priceless recognition and acknowledge of your own efforts every day. It's like you are giving yourself short-term rewards that we all need to hear.

Watch the video and learn more about it and why it is worth it:

How to start practicing

List ten things that you can be grateful for: the events that make you happy or make you smile. Use simple short sentences about things, encounters, your experiences or feelings— whatever details you recall from that day.

  1. Write it down in your notebook, peace of paper or your phone app. You can say it out loud (great to practice in the car while driving).
  2. Choose a method what works best for you or use all of them. Listing things in your mind may work but usually, the mind sidetracks by other thoughts.
  3. Feel every word in your gut and be honest. If you want to emphasize it a little bit more, add why you feel that way (recommended).

What happens when you start practicing gratitude:

  • You stop to see, feel and learn to recognize your positive emotions. 
  • You learn to notice the small meaningful things that make you happy (and are the 
  • You consciously change your mindset to positive.
  • You bring yourself to the present moment and grow your awareness.
  • You show effort as you take action.
  • You attract more goodness into your life.
  • You stop taking things for granted.
  • You respect life in a new way.

Starting a new practice can feel time-consuming at first, like starting a meditation practice or a new hobby but it will soon become easier, as you will soon you will start noticing the positive outcomes of this practice.

I usually do my gratitude practice in the evening, if not during the day when in need of extra energy - it is one of the mindful living tools, and it offers you a moment to take a breath. I track my day backward and pay attention to the tiniest details, what I saw or what happened during the day and how I felt.

Do you practice gratitude? How has it changed your life? Let me know your experience in the comments below.

Love,

Jenni